You’ve probably heard of the term “alpha male” before. But do you know what a “sigma male” is?
Most of us are aware of alpha males — what most consider dominant, high-status men — and beta males who are dominated, more shy and passive. However, there are other positions men can have in the hierarchy.
For example. sigma males. But what makes them different?
Who The Sigma Male Is
A Sigma male is an outsider.
He is not rejected by society. It’s not that he’s a weirdo no one wants anything to do with. He has no desire to play the social game. He doesn’t want to win the role of an “alpha” because he considers it pointless.
The Sigma male prefers to stick to himself and avoids groups. When they’re in a social setting they can be polite and say hello, but quickly move on to their own thing.
Often, the Sigma male is often described as “mysterious”. The James Bond type. Although it might be partly true, it doesn’t have to be so romantic. They’re usually seen as strange since other people are dumbfounded over why they refuse to be a part of the social game.
In short, a Sigma male is like a cat who comes and goes as he wishes. Few people know what he does on his own.
Here are other traits often exhibited by Sigma males:
- Sigma males are prone to break the rules, whether they are social, in the workplace or by the law.
- They’re often disdainful and contemptuous. Others may describe them as cold and arrogant.
- He can do and say things that are seen as unsettling or strange by others. And he’s aware of it — he doesn’t care.
The Birth Of A Sigma Male
The Sigma male is often someone who was rejected as a child or teenager. Maybe his parents moved around a lot, which prevented him from making friends. Maybe he was bullied because he was short, too intelligent or did not fit into the demographics of his peers.
But eventually, he matured and even though people around him began to see him as a desirable friend, connection and group member… he just didn’t desire it.
He’d grown up lonely and doesn’t have the same social needs as normal people. He wants solitude.
An outsider by force who became an outsider by choice.
Are You A Sigma Male?
You sure wonder if you are a Sigma male. Don’t you?
Of course, because you’re just like everyone else. The Sigma male is similar to the Alpha, except that the Sigma isn’t on top of the hierarchy. And since everyone wishes to be the Alpha, but most don’t have the confidence and social status to actually be one, they turn to the Sigma position.
Gee, no one takes me seriously, I’ve never been popular or had success with women… but that’s by choice. I’m an outsider, a Sigma male. Like James Bond, cool!
The most probable answer is that you’re not a Sigma, especially if you’re asking yourself or other people if you are. The fact that you care about your position in the hierarchy strongly indicates you’re not a Sigma male.
You’re likely just a man with lower status who still plays the social game.
Why Does This Matter?
Many men obsess over their hierarchical position the same way middle-aged women obsess over their zodiac sign. Initially, that’s what discouraged me from caring about it.
However, knowing your place in the hierarchy helps you understand yourself and social interactions better.
For example, Sigmas may not be the best employees at a 9-5 workplace. Creating their own job is the better alternative.
And if you’re a Sigma who wishes to be an entrepreneur, you want to aim at the “solopreneur” route with a few, select partners — instead of bossing over a huge team of employees.
Sigma males are, in short, social outcasts who grew into able men. And although their present selves are considered cool, attractive and such by others, the Sigma male is still an outsider — but by choice.
Until next time,
— Alexander Contrarian